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My wife has always been a vibrant Christian, and I guess it's only natural for her vibrancy to spill over into her role in our family. She leads the family altar, initiates most spiritual activities of the family and I'm rarely in the fore front. Initially, I was grateful for having such a godly wife, then I began to get threatened as she seem to be the spiritual leader of the family, right now I feel both threatened and guilty; guilty because I feel incapable of handling my role as the spiritual leader of my family. I really do not know what to do, as I feel the need to take my position, yet I do feel my wife is probably doing a better job at handling the spiritual activities of our home than I can. I wonder what it truly means to be the priest of my family.

It's usually every man's prayer to find a godly woman, just as it is every woman's desire to get a 'God-fearing' man. However, there are distinct roles for the man and the woman in a marriage relationship regardless of how godly they are. Every man is expected to be the priest of his house, to spiritually take responsibility for his family and man the spiritual atmosphere of his home.

Being the priest of your family does not mean you have to stifle the spiritual expression of every other member of your family, including your wife. It does not mean you have to be on the forefront all the time, leading every spiritual activity in the home. Truly fulfilling your role as a priest means you have to develop a vibrant and intimate relationship with God. It demands that you sharpen your spiritual sensitivity. It also requires that you bear the responsibility of building up members of your family in faith and in the knowledge of God. God vouched for Abraham's dedication to instructing his family in His ways, taking your place as a priest is as simple as that, making God your all in all, and instructing your household to do likewise, even as your life exemplifies it.

As the priest of your family, allow every member of your household to find spiritual expression in your home, guide their spiritual development and be a worthy example. Being the priest is about taking responsibility spiritually for your family, exerting your authority in prayer and prophetically over your family. It is not about winning the most spiritual person in the family contest, it is about spiritual responsibility- The responsibility to build an intimate relationship with God first of all; the responsibility to stay spiritually sensitive and to enforce the fulfilment of God's will and promises in your home.

You don't always have to lead every prayer or devotion session to truly fulfill your role as the priest. Your role as a priest is more fulfilled when you stay spiritually sensitive, this will reflect in your decisions for your family as regards spiritual activities and other spheres. No need to feel inadequate or threatened by your wife, build a vibrant relationship with God, he would lead and empower you to be the spiritual leader of your home. Stay spiritually sensitive and man the spiritual atmosphere and development of your family.

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Thoughts flow like the coaches of a train, and the same way a train could either move fast or slow, thoughts are capable of running so fast that sometimes it's so difficult to track them or stop them from approaching; at other times, they are slow but irresistible. You try hard as you can, but still cannot control their pace and the scenes showing in your mind. The interesting part is thoughts do not come alone; they come with a presence, an aura that can affect your entire body temperature and life's direction.

Sometimes, while unconsciously pondering on some scenes in a thought process, you may suddenly stop in the middle of the process and ask yourself, "How did I get into all these thoughts? How could I be thinking like this? Why would I do such a thing to him/her when I'm not covetous?" Does this describe you and some of your experiences? Have you been so badly beaten in the battle-field of your mind? This piece was written to reassure you of your victory in Christ and the dominion you have over your thoughts to channel them in the right direction.

I once came to a point in my life when I had exposed my mind to some information about a close acquaintance, and this robbed me of the purity of my mind. I could barely control the direction of my thoughts; I was literally driven by some uncontrollable force to think and run some commentary and play out a lot of scenes/pictures in my mind, most of which were just 'made up to make a whole drama play well'. Afterwards, I had thoughts like "My God! If I could turn the hands of time, I would have left this information altogether! My mind can never be pure again!" etc.

Nevertheless I came out of this time of my life, and have now become so much in control of my thoughts, to God's glory and with the help of the Holy Spirit. I can now easily trace and track my thoughts and order them in the direction I choose. I came to discover and lay hold of some truths about thoughts, their source and operations. I'm pretty sure the Holy Spirit inspired the writing of this piece so these truths could be shared.

It is very important to note that not all thoughts originate from the mind. This statement cannot be over-emphasized. A wise man once said, "You cannot do anything about a bird flying over your head, but you can do something about it sitting on your head, making a nest there and laying eggs on your head". This explains the fact that a number of the thoughts that run in the mind were initial suggestions stylishly made by the devil or are brought on by on-going events one is involved with or observing.

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Getting a flat tummy is not necessarily a health goal. Sure, a flat stomach is great. But it does not indicate good health. Many individuals who have a thinner physique are naturally thin because of their genetic makeup. They burn fat quickly, while the bodies of others are slower at this.

Moreover, whether a man has six-pack abs or a flat stomach tells you nothing about his flexibility, cardiovascular health, strength, digestive system, immune system, respiratory system or central nervous system. In short, if you see a thin person, don't assume he or she is in shape.

So, if you are a man and you would like to be in shape, what goal should you seek to achieve besides the coveted washboard stomach? Here are 4 simple steps to being a healthier man:

  • First, when eating, eat like a man.
  • Second, when exercising, don't be delicate; explore and discover.
  • Third, keep your blood sugar levels stable.
  • And last but not least, pay attention to the balance between your carbohydrate and protein intake.

Step 1: Eat Like a Man
Don't eat like a woman if you are a man. Confused? The truth is women have different dietary needs than men -- due, in part, to hormonal fluctuations that take place on monthly cycles and throughout life. Men also have less body fat than women do, and have more testosterone and lean muscle tissue, which burns more calories. With this in mind, calories must be adjusted accordingly. Men will need more calories than women who have the same activity level. As a man you require a well-balanced diet, with a good supply of carbohydrates, especially high-fibre foods, plenty of fruit and vegetables, some protein, low-fat dairy products and plenty of fluid.

Step 2: Expand Your Training Horizons
If you like to burn more calories and shape your body, you've got to pick up some weights or work with your own body weight as resistance. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:

  • Push up- Place your hands on the floor. Activate your abdominals so your body and legs form a straight line. Bend your arms until your nose touches the floor. Push yourself back up into the starting position.
  • Pull up- Find a playground with swings. Position yourself below the swing. Hold on with your hands on the outside. Pull yourself up toward the swing while bending your arms. Straighten your arms and repeat.

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My Hero

As I ponder the love that I saw in his eyes,
A Godly love, given without compromise....
I recall many times that he stood by my side,
And prodded me on with great vigor and pride.

His voice ever confident, firm and yet fair,
Always speaking with patience, tenderness and care.
The power and might of his hands was so sure,
I knew there was nothing we couldn't endure.

It's true, a few others provided insight,
Yet, he laid the foundation that kept me upright.
He's the grandest of men to have lived on this earth,
Although he's not royal by stature or birth.

He's a man of great dignity, honor and strength.
His merits are noble, and of admirable length.
He's far greater than all other men that I know,
He's my Dad, he's my mentor, my friend and hero.

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